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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary

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Alone and In Love: To Couple or Not?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:15+00:00 February 10th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Fall in love when you're ready not when you're lonely. ~ From Marc and Angel Hack Life What helped me accept the end of my marriage? Knowing I would be OK by myself.  In fact, I would be better off alone than in the relationship. I reached the point where I could cut away the safety [...]

What’s Wonderful? Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

By | 2015-10-21T12:50:32+00:00 February 3rd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Our culture made  a virtue of living only as extroverts.  We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for center.  So we lost our center and have to find it again. ~ Anais Nin Could we have prevented the Wall Street crash of 2008? How do introverts and extroverts work together in love? How can introverts act [...]

What's Wonderful? Henry and June

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 25th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

Maybe I have a thing for erotica. Maybe I love artsy-fartsy films about writers in Paris (I loved Woody Allen's Midnight in Paris too). Maybe it's because I watched  the entire movie in peace without interruptions (even rewinding and replaying dialogue I didn't catch the first time). Whatever the reason, I found Henry and June (1990) to be wonderful. [...]

Reframing Emptiness: Gaining Perspective When a Relationship Ends

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 13th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

This is it.  The last day we share a home, a closet, a bathroom and utility bills. My husband and I try to look busy as the movers load the last of his things. The men remove the protective padding from the door frames and close up the back of the truck. Jeff (husband) rushes off [...]

How to Protect and Liberate Your Energy:A Guide for Introverts and Anyone Who Feels Drained

By | 2015-10-19T12:08:53+00:00 December 16th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

You have a right to claim your energy. These are the wise words bestowed upon me by my writing sister, Karla. Karla is a few steps ahead of me on life's journey.  She's raised her kids and closed out her career (in teaching).  She's confident when declaring enough is enough.  Me, I am the coin that [...]

Who Could You Be if Someone Fiercely Championed You?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:17+00:00 December 9th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

The champion's confidence in you fortifies you against the destructive judgment that can come from both without and within... ~ Jonathon Fields, UncertaintyI feel good about something.  It involves one of those precious, heart-to-heart talks a mom is privileged to have with her twelve-year-old son .  During a recent rap session I said something to my [...]

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