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Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

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Go Lightly Even If You Feel Deeply

By | 2015-10-21T14:35:00+00:00 December 14th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Lightly Child, Lightly It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them...So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to [...]

First Year On My Own: Divorced, Dating, Parenting, Me

By | 2016-08-29T13:13:30+00:00 December 7th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Reflecting on My Youth - Joanne Smoley I can't believe it's been almost a year since Jeff moved out.  Didn't we just tell the kids that we make each other sad and we can't stay married? It seems like only yesterday I was having the suckiest New Year's ever. I remember thinking last year in [...]

I'm Sick of Myself and Other Things I Never Thought I'd Say

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:05+00:00 November 30th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

I once heard Brad Pitt say, Having children takes the focus off yourself, which I'm really grateful for. I'm so tired of thinking about myself. I'm sick of myself.  At the time, I was just entering the mystical realms of conscious self-reflection and writing.  I thought, How could anyone be sick of themselves? There is so much [...]

Listening to Butterflies:Using Fear to Move Forward

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:05+00:00 November 23rd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

    A reverie of childhood: I lie in the double bed where I suspect Grandma sleeps when I am not visiting.  The nubby white bedspread is turned down and rests like a lightweight dog on my feet.  I’ve read a chapter or two in my Judy Blume book and turned out the goose necked lamp. [...]

Sensuality in the Suburbs:Redefining the Norm

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:06+00:00 November 16th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

I know I'm not supposed to talk about it but sex and sensuality are on the tip of my tongue and very often heating up my thoughts. What can I say? My whole being is alive, including my body and its desires.  I'm newly divorced and newly carefree.  I feel like a twenty-something with the wisdom [...]

Do You Have the Guts to Choose Happiness?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:06+00:00 November 2nd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

In order to be happy you have to stand out.  Make different choices based on your desires not the status quo.  Often it takes guts to choose happy.  Choose to give up a stable but unfulfilling job. Choose to let a dying marriage die.  Love yourself instead of caring for everyone else all the time. Love [...]

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