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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman

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Chasing Love

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:07+00:00 October 5th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Once again I find myself without a partner.  I feel an ache when my phone chimes and it’s not a sweet text from my sweetheart.  It’s a text saying my Verizon bill is available for review.  Thud goes hope, and yet for now, I choose to relax and focus on my kids and writing.  Why am [...]

Divorce Done Right: How to Keep Your Post-Divorce Relationship Healthy and Friendly

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:07+00:00 September 28th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Do you ever regret getting divorced?  Is there any chance you and Jeff will get back together? I’ve recently fielded these questions. I guess people figure I have had enough time on my own to know whether I made a mistake or not. We started the divorce process last October. Jeff moved out in January. The divorce [...]

We Sometimes Cry in Public Bathrooms: How Introverts Handle Change and Disruptions at Work

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:08+00:00 September 21st, 2012|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

Change in the workplace How’s My Energy? Crabby? It’ll Pass In my early working days of Dilbert-esque jobs in cubicle-laden environments, change was as welcome as a turd in the vending machine.  I’d wrinkle my nose, shake my head and mutter No f*in’ way! under my breath when change was announced. I didn’t find my work [...]

The Catastrophe of Success: Remove the Struggle, Lose Your Way of Being

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:08+00:00 September 14th, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , |

I hate to admit it, but one reason my marriage failed was because life was too good. Success was overwhelming and numbing. We had it all —money, big home, healthy kids, personal trainers — and I missed the simplicity of my childhood.  I longed for  meaningful experiences with family, less complexity and the sincere words of [...]

Newly Divorced Introvert Follows Her Heart for a Change

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:08+00:00 September 7th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Baby yellow sunshine warms our backs as blue grass music tickles the airwaves at Minnehaha Park. We move through the festival crowd in dot to dot fashion, culminating at the ice cream counter. You’ve been dreaming of salted carmel ice cream for days so you order right away as I search for something fruitier and brighter. [...]

Lessons of Fall: Learning and Transitioning Post-Divorce

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:08+00:00 August 31st, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

My stomach is nervous and my brain is jumpy as I walk out into the cool dark morning. The air is slightly misty.  The sun is absent.  The new shirt I wear is crisp with creases much like the leaves on the trees. My new cords feel comfortable right now but will feel heavy and warm by [...]

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