Sensitive Introvert Alone Again: Turning the Light Inward for Now

Sensitive Introvert Alone Again: Turning the Light Inward for Now

I’m not sure where to begin this week’s post. I’m in a low place. The relationship with my man ended last week. I’m sad over the breakup. My children are sad over the breakup. I’m sad I hurt him. The weather has been dark, rainy and dreary for days. Prince died (and I live in Minneapolis). My […]

The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart : Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner

The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart : Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner

This week, I learned my number one need in a relationship. I think many of you will relate. At the end of the day, after running around trying to get everyone’s physical and emotional needs met, after the work, after the stress, after reconciling the good and the bad news, after establishing and maintaining boundaries, […]

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

A few years ago while engaging in the online dating scene, one intriguing man —a big guy with a blue-collar job and an intellectual mind— brought the term avoidant attachment style to my attention. He and I had one or two dates and several emails filled with interesting and meaningful conversation. We both were huge readers fascinated by […]

Introverts and Perfectionism: How Far Will You Go to Avoid Criticism?

Introverts and Perfectionism: How Far Will You Go to Avoid Criticism?

Do you feel like what you do is never good enough? In school, did you procrastinate on turning in papers or projects because you wanted to get them just right? Do you worry a lot about disappointing others? If so, you might be a perfectionist like me. I’m an introvert and INFJ personality type, and I’ve struggled with […]

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

I recently figured out one of my super powers. Introverted intuition. I took a personality assessment (for the millionth time) on the Personality Hacker website and came up an INFJ in the Myers Briggs type indicator. I sincerely go back and forth between INFJ and INFP. I know purists will say I have to narrow […]

Can This Introvert – Extrovert Relationship Be Saved?

Can This Introvert – Extrovert Relationship Be Saved?

There’s a theme among my new clients. It is extroverts alone after a breakup with an introvert. The extroverts wonder what made their introverted mates leave and if they will ever come back. In the beginning With my new clients the beginning of the relationship was heady and incredibly satisfying. They spent lots of time together. Their partners were […]