Finding and Losing Emotional Connection Again and Again

Finding and Losing Emotional Connection Again and Again

  “…love is a continual process of seeking and losing emotional connection, and reaching out to find it again. The bond of love is a living thing. If we don’t attend to it, it naturally begins to wither.” — Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight In our world of endless distractions and to do lists, it […]

Knowing When It’s Time to See a Therapist

Knowing When It’s Time to See a Therapist

I did it. I had my first personal therapy session this week. I’ve done marriage counseling. I’ve done group therapy with my writing friends. But prior to this, I’ve never done therapy just for me. I thought I could heal myself or get support from friends, family or a partner. Yes, the personal and relationship […]

Parents Need Love as Much as Their Children Do

Parents Need Love as Much as Their Children Do

So much of parenting is giving — time, attention, patience, food, guidance, love — incoming emotional sustenance is indispensable for balance. …Parents need each other for support and replenishment.  — Thomas Lewis, MD, Fari Amini, MD, Richard Lannon, MD, A General Theory of Love So much of our emotional well-being depends on the amount of reassurance […]

How to Earn Your Lover’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

How to Earn Your Lover’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

  Last week I wrote about gaining the trust of our children. This week I’m focusing on earning the trust of our partner. There are similarities between the two but as adults we have had more relationships shape us over the years, thus our brains are chock full of ingrained patterns and expectations. We also view […]

How to Earn Our Children’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

How to Earn Our Children’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

My children are all teenagers now. It’s safe to say, our relationships with each other greatly affect the way we live and feel from day-to-day. There are challenges within our relationships. There are days when security and harmony are absent in our home. I spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to improve our […]