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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan

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Ten Ways to Ignite a Relationship With a Sensitive Introvert

By | 2017-08-20T15:32:55+00:00 November 14th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , |

I consider myself a long-term case study in intimacy. I've put myself out there and experienced the world of dating and relationships first hand as an introvert. My own trials and errors along with the countless comments, stories and wise words from the space2live community have provided a rich and deep understanding of what introvert's want in a relationship. [...]

Introvert Relationships and Sensation Seeking: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate Update

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:06+00:00 September 5th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , |

In July I wrote a post titled, Introvert Stops Searching for 'The One' and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate. In it, I described my intention to stop dating for three months and focus on experiencing life's riches on my own. I planned to savor my children's company, spend meaningful time with friends, do nourishing [...]

Link to Introverts and Intimacy Interview with Introvert Spring

By | 2018-09-11T16:17:01+00:00 August 10th, 2014|Categories: Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Podcast, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , |

If you want to hear a delightful discussion about dating and mating as an introvert, then please tune in to listen to my interview with Michaela of IntrovertSpring.com. We'll dish about introvert relationships and intimacy (emotional and physical).   Please click Sensual interview to listen on IntrovertSpring.com. Here's the replay in case you missed it — http://ds1.downloadtech.net/cn1086/audio/75149993211940-001.mp3 [...]

Sensation Seeking Badass: The Sexy Side of Being a Sensitive Introvert

By | 2018-06-10T14:43:24+00:00 August 1st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Sensuality, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I'm reading Anthony Bourdain's book, Kitchen Confidential, and finding myself within the pages. For those of you who don't know anything about Bourdain, he is a traveling TV star, author and chef who describes his young self as a thrill-seeking pleasure hungry sensualist. He rose to international recognition as the author of the book (Kitchen Confidential) that exposed the [...]

How Do Introverts Feel About Physical Affection? Is It As Energizing As Emotional Intimacy?

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:11+00:00 May 23rd, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , |

Introverts crave interactions of meaning and depth. Such connecting fills us up and depletes us less. Could physical touch be as fulfilling and meaningful as verbal caressing? Is connecting through touch comparable to emotional intimacy? Is physical contact more or less draining than verbal communication? Much like learning a new language, I'm deciphering the nuances and unspoken words [...]

Sensuality, Sex, Solitude and Sensitivity: An Introvert’s Recipe for Love and Pleasure

By | 2015-10-20T10:00:57+00:00 March 21st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

He slips his arms around my waist and nuzzles my neck from behind. The timber of his voice and  scratchiness of his unshaven face send a sensation cascading through my body. My knees go weak as I sauté at the stove. Chris Isaak sings on the radio, his hauntingly playful voice mingling with the fragrance of [...]