We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

I walked down the hallway of a local elementary school. The smell of school lunches, pencils and tempera paint embedded the walls and low-pile carpet. As I looked for my assigned first-grade classroom, a boy (4th grade maybe) made eye-contact with me, smiled and said, “Hi, how are you today?” I resisted the urge to look behind […]

Can Different Personality Types Work in Love? Will Differences Enrich or Challenge Your Relationship?

Can Different Personality Types Work in Love? Will Differences Enrich or Challenge Your Relationship?

Understanding, appreciation and respect make a lifelong marriage possible and good. Similarity of type is not important, except as it leads to these three. Without them, people fall in love and out of love again, with them, a man and a woman will become increasingly valuable to each other and know that they are  contributing […]

Stop Settling for Mediocrity: Jump from Comfortable to Incomparable

Stop Settling for Mediocrity: Jump from Comfortable to Incomparable

I do this thing where I let myself stay in the shower after doing all the necessary sudsing and rinsing. I stay blissfully immersed in the hot water until the current song on the radio is over. Sometimes that gives me an extra three minutes of glorious steamy reflection time and sometimes it gives me 30 […]

Sensitive Introverts and Confrontation: Owning Your Part and Creating Mature Relationships

Sensitive Introverts and Confrontation: Owning Your Part and Creating Mature Relationships

I’ve been exploring confrontation lately, both confrontation with others and self-confrontation. It seems to move forward in your career, relationships and personal development, you have to learn how to resolve conflict and own up to your contribution to it. It is only through a vast amount of experience and a lengthy and successful maturation process that […]

When Divorce Looms: Suggestions and Understanding for Those In a Dying Relationship

When Divorce Looms: Suggestions and Understanding for Those In a Dying Relationship

Marriage is hard. Long-term relationships are hard too. I experienced the slow disintegration of my marriage and I’ve been privy to a few other marriage-in-flames stories, stories where the plane is going down and the relationship won’t survive, although it may flame out slowly. It seems the route of choice is often years of hellish tension with barely tolerated tolerance […]

7 Triggers of Over-stimulation and Over-sensitivity: How to Manage Them So You Can Be With People

7 Triggers of Over-stimulation and Over-sensitivity: How to Manage Them So You Can Be With People

We rode along the Dakota Trail near the shoreline of Lake Minnetonka. My man and I rode out front on his fun red tandem bike. My kids trailed behind us like teenage ducklings. We waved and rang our bells at neighbors we passed and strangers who smiled. The sun shone through the trees overhead and a cool breeze made the […]