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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko

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Go Lightly Even If You Feel Deeply

By | 2015-10-21T14:35:00+00:00 December 14th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Lightly Child, Lightly It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them...So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to [...]

First Year On My Own: Divorced, Dating, Parenting, Me

By | 2016-08-29T13:13:30+00:00 December 7th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Reflecting on My Youth - Joanne Smoley I can't believe it's been almost a year since Jeff moved out.  Didn't we just tell the kids that we make each other sad and we can't stay married? It seems like only yesterday I was having the suckiest New Year's ever. I remember thinking last year in [...]

Sensuality in the Suburbs:Redefining the Norm

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:06+00:00 November 16th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

I know I'm not supposed to talk about it but sex and sensuality are on the tip of my tongue and very often heating up my thoughts. What can I say? My whole being is alive, including my body and its desires.  I'm newly divorced and newly carefree.  I feel like a twenty-something with the wisdom [...]

When Was the Last Time Someone Deeply Listened to You?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:06+00:00 November 9th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

When was the last time someone really listened to you? Gave you their full attention with no time limits?  Where they sat down and listened instead of Swiffering their kitchen floor or silently surfing Facebook while you talked on the phone? It's a rare and precious gift — listening.  I used to meet weekly with a [...]

Do You Have the Guts to Choose Happiness?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:06+00:00 November 2nd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

In order to be happy you have to stand out.  Make different choices based on your desires not the status quo.  Often it takes guts to choose happy.  Choose to give up a stable but unfulfilling job. Choose to let a dying marriage die.  Love yourself instead of caring for everyone else all the time. Love [...]

I’d Rather Not Compete With You:For Introverts or Anyone Who Prefers Excellence Over Dominance

By | 2015-10-20T17:52:46+00:00 October 26th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Not a FIGHTER. Be my friend, lover or family member but please don’t be my competitor.  I will run from you if I feel you are in any way interested in one-upping me.  This is the ultimate turn off for me.  I will not relax in your presence.  I understand that competition is invigorating [...]

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