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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live

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In Defense of Introverted Parents

By | 2015-10-20T13:41:35+00:00 July 27th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

It’s summer and I’m about to hit the wall. My thinking is sludgy and my responses are slow and disconnected.  Kids arguing, household disorder and interruptions galore cloud my clarity and fatigue my body.  I feel like I’ve eaten a gallon of mashed potatoes and a gravy-injected turkey and washed it down with six or seven [...]

Live…Naturally: Less Technology, More Meaning

By | 2017-01-27T13:34:05+00:00 July 21st, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Original oil painting by Susan Roux I now know what it feels like to live without a phone, internet or television.  I spent 48 hours without such technology. It felt like a warm breeze through a sundress.  I always say life is about relationships and experiences. A lack of buzzing, beeps, chimes and talking [...]

Self-Actualization and the Suburban Mother

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:09+00:00 July 13th, 2012|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Three years ago a friend asked me, If you could have anything in the world what would it be? I immediately replied, Freedom. Burned Out Mommy At that time, I felt trapped and desperately out of sync with my self.  I was mentally and emotionally exhausted from the care and activity of three children, a husband and a [...]

Secrets to Satisfaction:How to Keep a Twinkle In Your Eye

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:09+00:00 July 6th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Out of necessity I have trained myself to keep the blues and energy draining feelings in check.  I am in no way saying that I do not get the blues or feel down and gloomy occasionally.  I’ve experienced debilitating stress and profound sadness but I’ve also worked my way through such funks to see the light [...]

Are You Someone’s Priority? Do You Need to Be?

By | 2016-04-23T08:37:27+00:00 June 29th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Priority: A thing that is regarded as more important than another. We all want to be somebody's priority. We want to be someone's first call when they return from a trip.  We want to be the one they make plans with for the weekend.  We want the most attention. I've held children and adults as they [...]

What It's Really Like to End a Marriage and Start Over Pt. 4: Being Alone, Dating and Co-Parenting

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:10+00:00 June 22nd, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Now That I Am On My Own:  1. I check my purse three or four times before I get out of the car to make sure I have my keys.  I do not want to have to call my ex-husband (has spare set).  I am slightly OCD about this. 2. I'm more aware of my body. [...]

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