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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie

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Secrets to Satisfaction:How to Keep a Twinkle In Your Eye

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:09+00:00 July 6th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Out of necessity I have trained myself to keep the blues and energy draining feelings in check.  I am in no way saying that I do not get the blues or feel down and gloomy occasionally.  I’ve experienced debilitating stress and profound sadness but I’ve also worked my way through such funks to see the light [...]

Are You Someone’s Priority? Do You Need to Be?

By | 2016-04-23T08:37:27+00:00 June 29th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Priority: A thing that is regarded as more important than another. We all want to be somebody's priority. We want to be someone's first call when they return from a trip.  We want to be the one they make plans with for the weekend.  We want the most attention. I've held children and adults as they [...]

What It's Really Like to End a Marriage and Start Over Pt. 4: Being Alone, Dating and Co-Parenting

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:10+00:00 June 22nd, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Now That I Am On My Own:  1. I check my purse three or four times before I get out of the car to make sure I have my keys.  I do not want to have to call my ex-husband (has spare set).  I am slightly OCD about this. 2. I'm more aware of my body. [...]

What It's Really Like to End a Marriage and Start Over Pt. 3: The Kids

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:10+00:00 June 15th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

We chose Friday night to tell the kids.  We figured this gave them a two-day buffer before they had to go back to school. Somehow Jeff (ex-husband) and I managed to make it through the pre-talk dinner without bursting into tears or throwing up. We told them we were going to have a family meeting in [...]

What It's Really Like to End a Marriage Pt. 2: Money, Mediation and Accounts

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:11+00:00 June 8th, 2012|Categories: Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

We sat in the divorce mediator's well appointed waiting room. Good cologne and flavored coffee mingled in the air.  My then husband, Jeff, and I filled out separate forms attached to clip-boards. A Keurig coffee machine sat between us. Our drive over together was chatty and not entirely uncomfortable; a mixture of first date, sheep-to-slaughter and relief. [...]

First One Over the Wall:What It’s Really Like to End a Marriage and Start Over

By | 2015-10-26T13:43:51+00:00 June 1st, 2012|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

After we started the divorce process, my ex-husband made the comment, You're the first one over the wall. At the time, I knew of several women who found their marriages deeply unfulfilling and/or unbearable. Even though they were miserable they were afraid to take the leap and end it. Now I wondered if they were watching to see [...]

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