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“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

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That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…

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Introvert Relationships, Self-Actualization and Sensuality: Best of Space2live 2012

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:05+00:00 December 28th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

As the core values of space2live crystallize, I discover myself. In 2011's Best Of post, I stated my intention to be more open in my 2012 writing. I succeeded.  I let my sensuality slip out from behind the ornate dressing screen.  I revealed my divorce story, despair and all. I admitted my weaknesses and shortfalls when [...]

Becoming Real: What Happens When You've Been Through Some Sh*t

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:05+00:00 December 21st, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

English: pg 18 and 19 of The Velveteen Rabbit. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) It doesn't happen all at once, said the Skin Horse. You become. It takes a long time. ...Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in [...]

Go Lightly Even If You Feel Deeply

By | 2015-10-21T14:35:00+00:00 December 14th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Lightly Child, Lightly It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them...So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to [...]

First Year On My Own: Divorced, Dating, Parenting, Me

By | 2016-08-29T13:13:30+00:00 December 7th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Reflecting on My Youth - Joanne Smoley I can't believe it's been almost a year since Jeff moved out.  Didn't we just tell the kids that we make each other sad and we can't stay married? It seems like only yesterday I was having the suckiest New Year's ever. I remember thinking last year in [...]

Sensuality in the Suburbs:Redefining the Norm

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:06+00:00 November 16th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

I know I'm not supposed to talk about it but sex and sensuality are on the tip of my tongue and very often heating up my thoughts. What can I say? My whole being is alive, including my body and its desires.  I'm newly divorced and newly carefree.  I feel like a twenty-something with the wisdom [...]

When Was the Last Time Someone Deeply Listened to You?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:06+00:00 November 9th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

When was the last time someone really listened to you? Gave you their full attention with no time limits?  Where they sat down and listened instead of Swiffering their kitchen floor or silently surfing Facebook while you talked on the phone? It's a rare and precious gift — listening.  I used to meet weekly with a [...]

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