Puberty for the Second Time: A Transition Not a Mid-Life Crisis

  I’m going through puberty again.  No my breasts are not budding and I am not consulting Judy Blume books, but I am transforming into a grown up…again.  This time I have twenty years of hindsight and hard-knocks to guide me.  This time instead of doing what my friends do, I am out on my […]

4 Steps to Love and Independence

4 Steps to Love and Independence

Self-love brings to mind: me time, positive affirmations, massage therapy and um masturbation. Guess what?  There’s way more to it than that. We all know we need to love ourselves before dragging someone else into the mix, yet time and time again couples break up and within weeks one or both of them is in a serious […]

3 Elements of Exquisite Sex and Divine Writing

3 Elements of Exquisite Sex and Divine Writing

The lusty photo drew me in first with its tasteful mingling of eroticism and artistry. Next, the word exquisite made eye contact and winked at me.  Alluring, but ultimately it was heightened curiosity that led me to the intense pleasure of reading the Exquisite Lover series by Jack of F*cking in Brooklyn.  Jack’s lascivious and pleasingly poetic words […]

There’s Nothing Wrong with You. You’re an Introvert.

  It is 2006 and I have everything.  My husband is making professional athlete money as an executive at a hedge fund.  We have three healthy, beautiful, active, children.  We recently moved into a spacious and impressive home.  I am getting to know people by throwing dinner parties for my husband’s co-workers and attending neighborhood […]

A Room of One's Own

  “A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction.”                                                                        ~ Virginia Woolf   I am operating on less than four hours of sleep and less than six hours of me time for the whole week.  I feel edgy and my skin crawls from lack of […]

The Art of Dancing with Resistance: A New Way of Handling Conflict

  How do you handle frustration?  Conflict ? My usual coping style is to relent and let conflict swallow me like a spoon in pudding, but occasionally I push up against problems like Sisyphus and his boulder.  But I am looking at things differently now. Writers, spiritual leaders, and everyday experiences have inspired a new approach […]