When Parenting Overwhelms:Tough Days as an Introverted Parent

When Parenting Overwhelms:Tough Days as an Introverted Parent

Most of my introvert friends are childless or have one child.  They seemed to have instinctively known their child-rearing capabilities and stopped while they were ahead.  I on the other hand barreled through every red flag that warned me.  I overlooked the need for long spans of time to myself.  I didn’t notice how much […]

Let's Not Reduce Everything to Numbers: An Antidote to the Unsatisfying Way We Account for Our Existence

Never worry about numbers.  Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest you. ~ Mother Teresa One of the hardest things about divorce is seeing everything reduced to numbers.  Credit cards, bank accounts and insurance policies are quantifiable representations of an existence thrown in a pile, divvied up or shut […]

Reframing Emptiness: Gaining Perspective When a Relationship Ends

This is it.  The last day we share a home, a closet, a bathroom and utility bills. My husband and I try to look busy as the movers load the last of his things. The men remove the protective padding from the door frames and close up the back of the truck. Jeff (husband) rushes […]

How a Sad Life Change Can Make You Extraordinary or Why Crying With Dan Fogelberg Is a Good Thing

It’s New Year’s Eve 2011, the last time we gather to celebrate as a nuclear family. My soon to be ex-husband hangs out in the study.  The kids alternate between their  Lego creations and banal shows on the Disney Channel.  I scurry around the kitchen trying to put together a festive meal of appetizers.  I […]

How to Protect and Liberate Your Energy:A Guide for Introverts and Anyone Who Feels Drained

How to Protect and Liberate Your Energy:A Guide for Introverts and Anyone Who Feels Drained

You have a right to claim your energy. These are the wise words bestowed upon me by my writing sister, Karla. Karla is a few steps ahead of me on life’s journey.  She’s raised her kids and closed out her career (in teaching).  She’s confident when declaring enough is enough.  Me, I am the coin […]

Who Could You Be if Someone Fiercely Championed You?

The champion’s confidence in you fortifies you against the destructive judgment that can come from both without and within… ~ Jonathon Fields, Uncertainty I feel good about something.  It involves one of those precious, heart-to-heart talks a mom is privileged to have with her twelve-year-old son .  During a recent rap session I said something […]