What TV Producer Shonda Rhimes and I Have in Common: Relationship Trade-Offs

What TV Producer Shonda Rhimes and I Have in Common: Relationship Trade-Offs

I ran across TV Producer, screenwriter and author, Shonda Rhimes’ quote a few weeks ago. I instantly felt a kinship. Granted, she’s producing and writing for shows like Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder and I’m typing away at my first book and doing some personal coaching… but we both feel […]

Healing Emotional Neglect In the Age of Conditional Love

Healing Emotional Neglect In the Age of Conditional Love

Dr. Jonice Webb describes nurturance as a combination of love, care and help. Dr. Webb is the author of a book titled, “Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect”. It is about what was left out of our childhood versus what happened, and how it affects our adult relationships. I highly recommend the book. […]

3 Myths that Hold Introverts Back from Meeting New People

3 Myths that Hold Introverts Back from Meeting New People

Have you found yourself dreading a work event? Or at a happy hour leaning against the wall, checking your phone, and waiting for a chance to leave? Almost every introvert has a story like this, a time where meeting new people felt uncomfortable and conversation was difficult. I’m a strong introvert, and I know meeting […]

Healing Your Relationship with Your Eyes

Healing Your Relationship with Your Eyes

Lust is at a distance, love is up close. According to psychologist, Dr. Stan Tatkin, if your relationship needs rekindling, lust is not your best bet. Getting physically near your partner and making eye-contact, are better choices. Mate selection at a distance The primitive parts of our brain assess people at an actual distance to […]

Two Rituals That Calm Your Nervous System and Strengthen Your Relationship

Two Rituals That Calm Your Nervous System and Strengthen Your Relationship

Dr. Stan Tatkin says we can and should be our partner’s best anti-depressant and anti-anxiety agent. That seems like a tall order to me, but I have learned so much about attachment theory, couple bubbles and neurobiology from Dr. Tatkin, I’m willing to trust him. Dr. Tatkin is fond of saying partners are in each other’s […]

Overcoming the Fears That Arise at Relationship Milestones

Overcoming the Fears That Arise at Relationship Milestones

I recognize the fears and threats I create regarding my relationships. I notice how they arrive at key turning points. After five years of dating post-divorce, I have gained a bit of self and relationship awareness. There is still a mountain of wisdom to be learned, but at this point I see my self-sabotaging tactics […]