Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

How do you know when a relationship has long-term loving potential? Since my last relationship ended, I took time off to figure out what went wrong, then dated casually, then dated a little less casually. I haven’t committed to anything serious… At this point, I am hyper-sensitive to potential pitfalls in a serious relationship. My brain […]

How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

After my marriage ended, I swore I would never stuff down my emotions and act like everything was OK or remain silent about what I needed from a partner. I was going to be open and communicate effectively. I had no idea how hard it is to know what you want and articulate it. I had […]

Does Your Partner Judge or Amplify Your Enthusiasm?

Does Your Partner Judge or Amplify Your Enthusiasm?

  We each got out of the car on our respective sides. I stood up, looked into the sky and noticed the widest most spectacular rainbow arching over the restaurant. I burst out, “Oh wow look at the rainbow!” as I pointed. He looked up, smiled, looked at me and nodded. It was fun sharing […]

Men and Respect:Women, Questioning and Intuition

Men and Respect:Women, Questioning and Intuition

“A man’s highest need is to feel respect, whereas a woman’s highest need is to feel loved.” — Marriage expert and researcher Shaunti Feldhahn In Shaunti Feldhahn’s article, The 5 Respect Needs of Men, she says men feel disrespected and not loved if their partners question their decisions or abilities. The biggest injustice and hurtful act of […]

Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems : We Need More Than Self-Soothing

Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems : We Need More Than Self-Soothing

The chapter titled, Do Your Nervous Systems Play Well?, in marriage therapist, Stan Tatkin’s book, Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate, grabbed my attention as a highly sensitive person. I’ve known for seven years that my nervous system is more easily aroused than about 80% of the population. I startle […]

Do You Feel Supported? Exploring Core Fears and How Relationships Heal Them

Do You Feel Supported? Exploring Core Fears and How Relationships Heal Them

A month ago, I found out someone I used to date was facing an organ transplant. They have a Caring Bridge Site and anticipate six months in the hospital. We dated for only two short months. I suspect his serious health conditions gave him the introspective, passionate and sensitive outlook on life I found so attractive. Toward the […]