The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart : Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner

The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart : Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner

This week, I learned my number one need in a relationship. I think many of you will relate. At the end of the day, after running around trying to get everyone’s physical and emotional needs met, after the work, after the stress, after reconciling the good and the bad news, after establishing and maintaining boundaries, […]

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

A few years ago while engaging in the online dating scene, one intriguing man —a big guy with a blue-collar job and an intellectual mind— brought the term avoidant attachment style to my attention. He and I had one or two dates and several emails filled with interesting and meaningful conversation. We both were huge readers fascinated by […]

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

I recently figured out one of my super powers. Introverted intuition. I took a personality assessment (for the millionth time) on the Personality Hacker website and came up an INFJ in the Myers Briggs type indicator. I sincerely go back and forth between INFJ and INFP. I know purists will say I have to narrow […]

Can This Introvert – Extrovert Relationship Be Saved?

Can This Introvert – Extrovert Relationship Be Saved?

There’s a theme among my new clients. It is extroverts alone after a breakup with an introvert. The extroverts wonder what made their introverted mates leave and if they will ever come back. In the beginning With my new clients the beginning of the relationship was heady and incredibly satisfying. They spent lots of time together. Their partners were […]

An Intuitive Introvert Redefines Typical: The New Normal Is Sensitive, Reflective and Recharged

An Intuitive Introvert Redefines Typical: The New Normal Is Sensitive, Reflective and Recharged

I don’t know if I could make it as a ‘normal’ person. I sincerely don’t think I could work a 40+ hour/week office job, raise kids, maintain my home, nurture a romantic relationship and keep up social ties. My nervous system begs for calm. I do everything so deeply and with such conscientiousness, I believe I […]

If You Love an Introvert

If You Love an Introvert

She was the one at the party hanging back from the crowd, but she wasn’t doing nothing. From the look in her eyes, you could tell she was watching the scene and not missing a thing. When you talked to her, she didn’t bore you with superficial chatter about her weekend — she actually had something meaningful […]