When Time is Fragmented, Introverts Stress Out

When Time is Fragmented, Introverts Stress Out

I have a client who thrives while moving from one task to the other, often without planning or time in between jobs. He likes having different jobs thrown at him at different times. He rolls with the changes and the barrage of details to be handled. His wife feels different about such juggling and pivoting. […]

Finding Our Way Through Orientation People and Compass Points

Finding Our Way Through Orientation People and Compass Points

I recently walked with a friend who lost her husband two years ago. She said after he died she was lost. She didn’t eat, didn’t want to do anything. She had to force herself to get up and out of the house each day. Now a good portion of this experience was grief, but there […]

Social Anxiety and Building Our Resilience

Social Anxiety and Building Our Resilience

A few years ago, I started noticing a slight hesitancy to sign my name on a credit card tablet in front of the store clerk. I also noticed that if I suddenly become the center of attention during a group conversation, I blush and feel hot, sometimes forgetting where I am going with my story. […]

Knowing When It’s Time to See a Therapist

Knowing When It’s Time to See a Therapist

I did it. I had my first personal therapy session this week. I’ve done marriage counseling. I’ve done group therapy with my writing friends. But prior to this, I’ve never done therapy just for me. I thought I could heal myself or get support from friends, family or a partner. Yes, the personal and relationship […]

Parents Need Love as Much as Their Children Do

Parents Need Love as Much as Their Children Do

So much of parenting is giving — time, attention, patience, food, guidance, love — incoming emotional sustenance is indispensable for balance. …Parents need each other for support and replenishment.  — Thomas Lewis, MD, Fari Amini, MD, Richard Lannon, MD, A General Theory of Love So much of our emotional well-being depends on the amount of reassurance […]

How to Earn Your Lover’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

How to Earn Your Lover’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

  Last week I wrote about gaining the trust of our children. This week I’m focusing on earning the trust of our partner. There are similarities between the two but as adults we have had more relationships shape us over the years, thus our brains are chock full of ingrained patterns and expectations. We also view […]