How Losing Our Joy Affects Our Children: Ways to Get Back to Good

How Losing Our Joy Affects Our Children: Ways to Get Back to Good

  Because my happiness was based on external measures—on tasks being completed, plans running accordingly, goals being met, hairs being in place—I was continually disappointed … upset … impatient … and stressed. In the process of making my own life miserable, I’d funneled my unhappiness straight into my daughter’s once joyful heart and spirit. Her […]

When Time is Fragmented, Introverts Stress Out

When Time is Fragmented, Introverts Stress Out

I have a client who thrives while moving from one task to the other, often without planning or time in between jobs. He likes having different jobs thrown at him at different times. He rolls with the changes and the barrage of details to be handled. His wife feels different about such juggling and pivoting. […]

Finding Our Way Through Orientation People and Compass Points

Finding Our Way Through Orientation People and Compass Points

I recently walked with a friend who lost her husband two years ago. She said after he died she was lost. She didn’t eat, didn’t want to do anything. She had to force herself to get up and out of the house each day. Now a good portion of this experience was grief, but there […]

Knowing When It’s Time to See a Therapist

Knowing When It’s Time to See a Therapist

I did it. I had my first personal therapy session this week. I’ve done marriage counseling. I’ve done group therapy with my writing friends. But prior to this, I’ve never done therapy just for me. I thought I could heal myself or get support from friends, family or a partner. Yes, the personal and relationship […]

Parents Need Love as Much as Their Children Do

Parents Need Love as Much as Their Children Do

So much of parenting is giving — time, attention, patience, food, guidance, love — incoming emotional sustenance is indispensable for balance. …Parents need each other for support and replenishment.  — Thomas Lewis, MD, Fari Amini, MD, Richard Lannon, MD, A General Theory of Love So much of our emotional well-being depends on the amount of reassurance […]