An Introvert Finds Joy in Belonging to Groups

An Introvert Finds Joy in Belonging to Groups

It is often said you have to let go of something old to make space for something new. There is also the old adage about every ending being a new beginning. I’ve experienced both in the last six months. Spirituality means connection, oneness and love  I ended a long-term relationship in the spring. I did not […]

Worried About Being ‘Too Much’ in a Relationship: High Sensitivity and the Relational Paradox

Worried About Being ‘Too Much’ in a Relationship: High Sensitivity and the Relational Paradox

Relational paradox: When convinced a relationship won’t tolerate who you really are, you leave a part of you out of that relationship. When I read the description of a relational paradox in Dr. Amy Banks’ book, Wired for Connection:The Surprising Link Between Brain Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships, a lightbulb went on in my head. […]

Are Perfection-Seeking and Self-Reliance Holding You Back from Love? The Avoidant Attachment Style’s MO

Are Perfection-Seeking and Self-Reliance Holding You Back from Love? The Avoidant Attachment Style’s MO

Since childhood, I’ve learned to self-soothe and be self-reliant. My parents were/are great, loving parents. I always knew they were there for me if I really needed them. There was a lot of fun, conversation and adventure in our home. They both had personalities that fostered independence in their children. My dad is entrepreneurial, curious and […]

Does Your Mate or Your Community Fulfill Your Emotional Needs?

Does Your Mate or Your Community Fulfill Your Emotional Needs?

What is different is that modern life has depleted us of our traditional resources, and has created a situation where we turn to one person for the protection and emotional connections that a multitude of social networks used to provide. Adult intimacies have become overburdened with expectations.  —Esther Perel, Future of Couples: Is the Institution […]

Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

How do you know when a relationship has long-term loving potential? Since my last relationship ended, I took time off to figure out what went wrong, then dated casually, then dated a little less casually. I haven’t committed to anything serious… At this point, I am hyper-sensitive to potential pitfalls in a serious relationship. My brain […]

How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

After my marriage ended, I swore I would never stuff down my emotions and act like everything was OK or remain silent about what I needed from a partner. I was going to be open and communicate effectively. I had no idea how hard it is to know what you want and articulate it. I had […]