Creating Win/Win Relationships by Growing Beyond Our Win/Lose Mentality

Creating Win/Win Relationships by Growing Beyond Our Win/Lose Mentality

I pay attention to coincidences. On the plane ride back from Tennessee (spent Thanksgiving there), I went back and forth between two books: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the personal management classic by Stephen Covey and Wired for Love, a look at neuroscience and its correlation with relationships by Dr. Stan Tatkin. Both […]

Supporting the People Pleaser : Finding Calm During the Holidays

Supporting the People Pleaser : Finding Calm During the Holidays

This time of year is pressure-filled and brings up old wounds. The holidays involve a lot of detail-minding and extra effort. Entertaining, holiday cards, gift buying, baking, decorating, party attending, putting up lights, traveling and making sure everyone is happy, take a lot of energy. All three of my children have birthdays during the holiday […]

We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

I walked down the hallway of a local elementary school. The smell of school lunches, pencils and tempera paint embedded the walls and low-pile carpet. As I looked for my assigned first-grade classroom, a boy (4th grade maybe) made eye-contact with me, smiled and said, “Hi, how are you today?” I resisted the urge to look behind […]

4 Ways to Shift to an Upward Spiral: Applying Neuroscience to Achieve Happiness

4 Ways to Shift to an Upward Spiral: Applying Neuroscience to Achieve Happiness

Emotions and anxiety seem to go hand in hand with sensitivity. Minds and senses that are easily over-stimulated seem to generate big feelings and deep worry. The good news is we also develop beautiful thoughts and inspiring ideas. I read 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy, According to Neuroscience in Time’s online ideas/psychology section […]

Are Grief and Pain Piling Up? : The Problem with Worshipping Independence

Are Grief and Pain Piling Up? : The Problem with Worshipping Independence

In deference to The Day of the Dead (Dia de los Muertos, Nov. 1st), a Mexican national holiday, we had a day of remembrance at church. We were asked to bring a photo of a loved one (including a pet if you wanted) who had passed on and put it on the altar. I brought a […]

An Introvert Finds Joy in Belonging to Groups

An Introvert Finds Joy in Belonging to Groups

It is often said you have to let go of something old to make space for something new. There is also the old adage about every ending being a new beginning. I’ve experienced both in the last six months. Spirituality means connection, oneness and love  I ended a long-term relationship in the spring. I did not […]