Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

How do you know when a relationship has long-term loving potential? Since my last relationship ended, I took time off to figure out what went wrong, then dated casually, then dated a little less casually. I haven’t committed to anything serious… At this point, I am hyper-sensitive to potential pitfalls in a serious relationship. My brain […]

How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

After my marriage ended, I swore I would never stuff down my emotions and act like everything was OK or remain silent about what I needed from a partner. I was going to be open and communicate effectively. I had no idea how hard it is to know what you want and articulate it. I had […]

Does Your Partner Judge or Amplify Your Enthusiasm?

Does Your Partner Judge or Amplify Your Enthusiasm?

  We each got out of the car on our respective sides. I stood up, looked into the sky and noticed the widest most spectacular rainbow arching over the restaurant. I burst out, “Oh wow look at the rainbow!” as I pointed. He looked up, smiled, looked at me and nodded. It was fun sharing […]

Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems : We Need More Than Self-Soothing

Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems : We Need More Than Self-Soothing

The chapter titled, Do Your Nervous Systems Play Well?, in marriage therapist, Stan Tatkin’s book, Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate, grabbed my attention as a highly sensitive person. I’ve known for seven years that my nervous system is more easily aroused than about 80% of the population. I startle […]

Do You Feel Supported? Exploring Core Fears and How Relationships Heal Them

Do You Feel Supported? Exploring Core Fears and How Relationships Heal Them

A month ago, I found out someone I used to date was facing an organ transplant. They have a Caring Bridge Site and anticipate six months in the hospital. We dated for only two short months. I suspect his serious health conditions gave him the introspective, passionate and sensitive outlook on life I found so attractive. Toward the […]

Brenda’s Random Personal Introverted Vacation and Dating Thoughts

Brenda’s Random Personal Introverted Vacation and Dating Thoughts

I was on vacation last week and I’m busy playing catchup with housework, career work, kid requests and many other life pulls. So, unfortunately or fortunately, this week you get my mostly unedited, half-processed thoughts and observations to review. Are introverts funny? As I said, I was on vacation last week. We visited family in […]