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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary

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Park the Panic:Insomnia Solutions for Incessant Thinkers

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:19+00:00 September 30th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , |

The worries usually take hold between two and four A.M. It's a time in my sleep cycle when consciousness rouses me like a tangled bedsheet.  Sometimes this quiet pre-morning arousal is beautiful.  Sometimes it is a time of free-flowing clarity; awareness stripped of distractions and noise.  Other times the peace and gauziness of half-sleep are replaced with the clicks and whirrs of thinking. The [...]

Lose Your Mind and Feel Awesome: How Seth Godin and Steve Jobs Move Us

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:19+00:00 September 23rd, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , |

 I have discovered how powerful it is to stop the barreling bullet train of thoughts that rip through my mind and just FEEL.  In fact, switching from thinking to feeling is an addiction I do not fight, but  feed.  Like all addictions, it feels like I cannot LIVE without it.  It is a difficult habit to maintain because most people find thinking so much [...]

Need Energy? How to Get It Without Caffeine or Extra Sleep

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:19+00:00 September 16th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , , , , |

I entered the ice-blue and transparent Apple store.  The openness and clean lines felt more refreshing than cold. There were plenty of i-products to play with, each subtly leashed to a simple table and pleasingly surrounded by free space.  I glanced around and noticed the store was busy.  At 6pm the afterwork crowd was present but speaking in pleasant, [...]

What If Schools Put Character Building First and Standardized Tests Second?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:19+00:00 September 9th, 2011|Categories: Parenting, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Atticus Finch and Tom Robinson in 1962's movie To Kill a Mockingbird True excellence takes sacrifice, mistakes, and enormous amounts of effort. ~ Rafe Esquith  What if schools focused more on each child’s character development and less on standardized tests?   Rafe Esquith author of Teach Like Your Hair is On Fire uses Lawrence [...]

Two Completely Opposite Ways to Cleanse Your Spirit

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:20+00:00 September 2nd, 2011|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , , , , , |

I think I get used to, even addicted to, the feelings associated with the end of a long training run.  I love feeling empty, clean, worn out, starving, and sweat-purged. ~Kristin Armstrong, Mother, Marathon Runner, Writer for Runner’s World Magazine   There is something pure and cleansing about immersing yourself in physical exertion. Something that washes [...]

How Quiet Places Could Save the World

By | 2015-11-22T11:17:07+00:00 August 26th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  Remember when coffee shops were the bohemian or introvert hangouts?  Thanks to Starbucks and the $5 cup of coffee, the scene is a place to, well, be seen AND heard.  It’s everyone’s hangout. More like a 50s malt shop than a setting for poetry readings. I miss the introspective and muted atmosphere. Last week I [...]

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