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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB

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Short Little Spans of Attention

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:20+00:00 August 5th, 2011|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

These are not my children. Never too early to start a technology addiction... I can’t reach my kids.  And I think I know why.  They have the attention spans of minnows.  I can’t say that only children have this problem.  We adults are just as bad with our iPhones and web browsing.  Hell, I [...]

3 Things That Save Me from Mental and Emotional Burnout

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:21+00:00 July 29th, 2011|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , |

I get a little wiggy when it comes to packed schedules and excessive togetherness. I mentioned my fear of non-stop kid chaos during school breaks in Thoughts for the Thoughtful and An Introvert Prepares for Summer Parenting.  I spoke of a deep need for meaningful accomplishment in A Room of One’s Own.  More than anything [...]

Are You Part of the Pecking Order or Are You Marking Your Territory?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:21+00:00 July 22nd, 2011|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

I once held a friend’s hair back as she vomited at a sleepover.  My friend, Laura, was not truly wanted at the party (and knew it) but the popular-girl hostess had been forced by her mother to invite her.  The whole night had been awkward as Laura danced for the queen bee and her sidekick.  While playing charades [...]

Authentic Happiness Found in Arts and Entertainment Freelancing

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:21+00:00 July 15th, 2011|Categories: Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

I cannot seem to get enough details about who I am and what I am supposed to do in this world.  This week a trail of web links led me to The Authentic Happiness website where I took a 240 question VIA Survey of Character Strengths.  The Authentic website is based on the work of [...]

A Room of One's Own

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:21+00:00 July 8th, 2011|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Popular Posts, Relationships, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

  “A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction.”                                                                        ~ Virginia Woolf   I am operating on less than four hours of sleep and less than six hours of me time for the whole week.  I feel edgy and my skin crawls from lack of recovery [...]

Spirit of Summer

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:21+00:00 July 1st, 2011|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , |

   Summer seems a time of brevity, levity and love. My heart and intellect could not stand an outpouring of researched writing this week so something different… a poem; in this case, liquid words of summer sentiment.  Enjoy the beauty and life-filled images of the season. :)    Love Past loves swarm and circle-buzz the air: The [...]

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