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THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
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Best New Posts on Space2live : Top 5 of 2016

2016 out

Hello Friends,

Another year comes to a close. Many people I know have lost loved ones this year. I know the heartbreak and emptiness that brings. My love and deep care go out to those with sadness in their souls at this time.

The first half of 2016 was kind of rough. A significant relationship ended for my children and me. That pulled at my heartstrings extra hard, but many new beginnings have taken its place. Overall, 2016 has been more gain than loss. I had the privilege of working with twenty five new clients. My new job as a paraprofessional within the school system has been a delight and worthwhile challenge. I joined a beautiful spiritual community at The Unitarian Universalist Church and squeezed in doing a play with my daughter through the church. I entered a new positive intimate relationship and we have just begun to intertwine our lives and communities.

I am grateful, appreciative and over-the-moon for all of the amazing experiences and relationships that entered my world in 2016. I am, as always, so touched at the connections made with those who read my writing (You!). Those connections keep me going. Thank you!

As an introvert moving outward into more social settings, I thought all the new people and places would be taxing, and there were days when I felt overloaded, but mostly I felt peaceful warmth and meaningful energy. This is the warmth and energy I want all of you to experience. They are lovely and let our sensitive introverted nature breathe and thrive.

Coincidentally, this kind of introvert energy and connecting is what I’ll be writing about in my book to be released fall of 2017. I have signed a contract with a publisher. I have an April deadline for the 70,000 word manuscript.


I may be pulling my hair out over the next few months. There may be a few weeks of evergreen (re-run) posts from space2live when I can’t get a new post written AND make my book deadline. I apologize in advance for those. Please know I’m doing my best and will connect with you as soon as I can.

I will continue to write and share my hiccups and hurrays over 2017. We will learn and become secure, mature beings together.

Top 5 New Posts of 2016

For now, here are the top 5 new posts of 2016 as determined by your views:

  1. Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion
  2. What a Sensitive Introvert Needs to Relax and Love Freely
  3. Introversion Isn’t Something to Fix
  4. Sensitive Introverts and Confrontation: Owning Your Part and Creating Mature Relationships
  5. Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner: The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart

Enjoy and have a special and loving new year celebration! Can’t wait to be with you in 2017!

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Love and warmth,

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  1. Lauren Sapala January 3, 2017 at 11:44 am - Reply

    Congratulations on the book contract Brenda!!! This is amazing news. So happy for you 🙂

    • Brenda Knowles January 3, 2017 at 11:56 am - Reply

      Thank you Lauren! Now the craziness begins (or continues;)!

  2. Sheket December 30, 2016 at 4:46 pm - Reply

    So glad to hear that the year ended warmly and with well-being for you and your family! Here’s to a wonderful 2017 with all the abundance and validation that you need. Congratulations on the book contract!

    • Brenda Knowles January 1, 2017 at 5:03 pm - Reply

      Hey S! Sending you warm energy and peace. I hope your year ended on a high note and that 2017 is beautiful and joyful. Thinking of you!

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