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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
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How do you beat overwhelm and get to calm and focused? New free ebook by Andy Mort

Hello Gentle Readers,

How do you keep focused on what’s most important to you when you’re stressed and overwhelmed by the noise, chaos, and busyness of life?

I don’t know about you, but it’s always been a challenge for me…and it’s not getting any easier.

We face increasing distractions in our lives; things that constantly seek to pull us away from what’s important to us. If we’re not intentional about it, and if we aren’t aware of what matters to us in the first place we find ourselves watching the days whizz overworked and overwhelmed.

I have been speaking to my friend, Andy Mort about this issue. As someone who leads an online community for introverted and highly sensitive creative people he said it is a struggle that comes up for many of his readers. He asked me if I had any advice on how to help people keep focused on their own priorities without getting distracted and overwhelmed.

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Andy invited me to share my thoughts for a free e-book he has put together. His vision was to bring a wider range of voices and perspectives than his own. He has brought friends from different fields and walks of life to help give a broader sense of what’s possible. So I was happy to be able to add my thoughts to this important conversation, with the hope that it might inspire and encourage people as they grapple with the reality of overwhelm and busyness in their own day to day lives.

Andy asked me to respond to three questions:

1. How do you remain focused on what’s most important to you during those moments when you feel stressed and overwhelmed by the noise, chaos, and busyness of life?

2. Where is your own ‘happy place’ (favorite place to withdraw) to re-energize and spend time re-charging before facing the world again?

3. What one thing might you suggest to someone who gets easily distracted and overwhelmed and feels like they are in a constant battle moving one step forwards and two steps back when it comes to pursuing the stuff that truly matters to them?

It was an interesting exercise for me personally because it got me thinking about this topic and how I keep on track with what matters to me. There are more than 20 other voices that Andy asked to contribute responses to the e-book and it’s been really fascinating to see the variety of approaches people take.

What you will see is that there really isn’t one size fits all, but I can guarantee that if this is something you struggle with yourself there will be some huge pearls of wisdom in the book that will help you regain the focus and clarity you seek.

You may not consider it a particular struggle for you personally. I would still heartily recommend you get hold of the book just so you can soak in the broad range of perspectives from fellow ‘Gentle Rebels’. It’s sometimes easy to forget that not everyone interacts with the world in the same way as you and there is always more to learn.

You can get the book for free right now here http://the-haven.co/calm-amidst-chaos/?ref=7

May you enjoy and gather insight from this gem of a book.

Warmly,

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P.S. Andy released a series of 3 audio lessons on the topic of identifying your core personal values. If you download the book you will get free access to the series as well. Here’s the link again. http://the-haven.co/calm-amidst-chaos/?ref=7

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